
What is a pelvic wand?
And do I need one? And how do I use it?
I am so excited to tell you!
A pelvic wand is amazing. But it can be intimidating.
But it doesn’t have to be. Let’s start with the basics to see if it is a good fit for you!

What is a pelvic wand used for?
A pelvic wand is used to reach trigger points in pelvic floor muscles. These muscles are in the great, but sometimes awkward to reach position deep in the pelvis. Here’s why we need them:
- Dr. Kelly shows a typical treatment depth of a pelvic floor therapist during a treatment without a pelvic wand.
- Typical depth of reach during self-work without a wand is limited to about 1 inch.
- Treatment depth of a pelvic wand is similar to that of a PT.
As you can see in the above, middle picture, left to just our own fingers, we typically can’t reach many areas of common trigger point within the pelvic floor.
Yes, if we have a willing partner available, they can be trained in this assessment and treatment, but often it is beneficial to be able to work on these trigger points whenever we choose to, and having a tool, such as an Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand, can give us that independence.
Can I use a tampon, or a dialator instead?
No. Tampons are not long enough, nor firm enough, and dialators are straight…so, they just don’t reach your target treatment point.
Using a Pelvic Wand in 5 Easy Steps
- See a pelvic floor physical therapist, or buy my Signature Pelvic Floored Series (or a la carte instruction in Self Pelvic Floor Muscle Exam), to learn how to accurately assess you pelvic floor muscles to determine which ones should recieve treatment priority, and to learn where to push and how hard. Yes, your body IS amazing and reslient…but there ARE certain areas in the pelvic floor where we are VERY close to nerves that do NOT appreciate prolonged pressure. So instruction in where pressure is beneficial vs not, is very important for success here.
- Set yourself up in a comfortable position. Semi-reclined is best, with knees bent and supported by something (mutiple pillows, or if in a bathtub, knees resting against the sides of a bathtub). Be sure the temperature is comfortable and you are confident that you will not be interrupted, so that you can focus on your assessment and treatment. People with penises, your set up might be sidelying in bed, with pillows between knees.
- Perform a self digital muscle check, using the Pelvic Clock, to recognize status of pelvic floor muscles pre-wand use.
- Insert the wand as instructed, and provide GENTLE pressure to targeted trigger point, identified by your self exam, or by your Pelvic Therapist. Depending on your trigger point, 3-5 minutes of gentle pressure, with or without nerve glides, may be indicated, as well as potential practice of pelvic floor muscle contractions (up, relax AND down, relax).
- Following the treatment, repeat your self pelvic clock assessment. It should feel less painful and more symmetrical! Good job!
Pelvic Wand: Common Questions:
Is it a Vibrator?
- No, it’s not a vibrator. It is a medical device to treat a painful or dysfunctional trigger point. It is used to improve tissue health and blood flow to allow for reduced pain and improved strength.
- …but Intimate Roes dose have a vibrating option that is used in particularily stiff tissues to help improve blood flow. As tissue health improves, if you purchased this option, you COULD also use it to stimulate your clitoral parts, or in intimate play, so that could be a double bonus for you and-or your partner.
How do you know if you are deep enough
- Your pelvic floor therapist will teach you about how to reach these parts. In general,remember that the muscles are along the inside of pelvic ring. The superficial muscles of the pelvic floor are about 1cm thick and surround the vaginal and rectal openings. Spasm in those muscles can cause a variety of pain complaints or continence issues.
- Treating the deeper muscles is easy with a pelvic wand’s curved design. Practice with a 3D pelvic model at your therapist’s clinic, or watch videos on Intimate Rose, or my website.

- In general, if it feels like you are not doing anything, you’re probably not in the right place.
- Conversely, if it feels sharp and painful, that’s not the ideal place for home treatments, either, unless your therapist specificially instructed you to engage that symptom, and has a very sound clinical rationale. If they can’t explain rationale for it, then don’t do it.
Want to try one?
Head over to intimaterose.com/kelly21 or use coupon code KELLY21 for $5 off any product! You won’t be disappointed!
Thanks for Reading!
Check out my Pelvic Floored Signature Lecture Series for a much more in depth training of how to do a self pelvic floor muscle assessment to determine how your current pelvic floor musce status could be contributing to your pain, incontinence, constipation, or pelvic organ pressure complaints. If using a wand is indicated for you, we’ll also teach you how to use one!
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Thanks for reading!
xoxo, Dr. Kelly
